Dr Lim Lee Nai: medical science does not have the answer for everything

Dear Ewe Chin,

Thanks for your sharing.
I am very sorry to hear about the lost of your 2 precious son.
I wish I could be there for you. I willl say a special prayer for them. May they rest in peace.
I agreed with you, medical science does not have the answer for everything. We still do not understand fully how body function.
The more we know, the more we find out we don't know.

Please take care, my heart is with you.


Love,
Lee Nai
O&G, Oxford, UK

TWL: The book "The Secret"

Let bygones be bygones.
I know it's easier said than done. I am sure you can try.

Have you read the book "The Secret"?
"You need to have one secret element, and when you have that secret element, nothing will get in your way. That element is an intense desire! You must desire something with all of your heart to manifest it. "
"When you have a burning desire for something you ignite a fire within you that attracts with an incredible force. "

"When your heart is on fire with desire you will attract the right things to do, you will find visualizing so easy, and you will find it is effortless to think positive thoughts of your desire. You will attract all the qualities you need, such as strength, courage, belief, persistence, faith, and a powerful will. An intense desire lights up your being, producing a magnetic force that enables the law of attraction to cut through every physical obstacle for you and make your dream come true. "

So, think positive, and everything will be fine! Remember, you have a good husband and a beautiful daughter by your side and lots of friends that truly care!

Dr TWL: You made hard but right decisions

It's a beautiful blog, honestly, one of the best I've seen so far :)

It must be very difficult as a mum to see her own sons leaving her. I can understand your pain.
I see a lot of premature babies who did not survive in the hospital and I still remember how 'anxious' , almost to the degree of "crazy" when I was pregnant with my two sons. I had all sorts of nightmares.

You are very strong and very passionate.
You made hard but right decisions. It must be heart aching beyond words for you and your hb.

I was not only saddened but touched after reading your blog. It's such a beautiful blog written by such a beautiful mum.

I truly cannot imagine how you walked through all these hardships. I do not think I can do that. I guessed.
I learnt to be more receptive and appreciative. I am lucky, must luckier than a lot of ppl out there. Honestly, I haven't been through any hardships all my life and I thanked God for this. I must have done something real good my past life to deserve a smooth journey this life.

Bee Hooi's death strucked me hard too. We were classmates since kindergarten. I could not sleep for weeks and memories of her kept flashing in front of me for weeks, and even now, I still think of her. I wonder what had she done in her past life to deserve such sufferings. I pity her two boys too.

I used to be very emotional when I first worked. I felt it hard to see kids passing away at such a tender age.
Later, I learnt to protect myself and had became a bit cold blooded.
Working in a baby ICU is not an easy job, making decision to save or to let go is even harder but I like the challenge.
Though now I have to sacrifice that for something more important in life, my famiily. I've seen mothers crying not able to let go of their children.
I've seen a mother cried infront of me telling me how bad she was coz she prayed hard for a boy but forgot to pary for a healthy baby. She had a boy who had malformed heart and eventually died after about 10 days.
I've seen mother getting pregnant to try to save an elder child with the cord blood but the child did not manage to wait for the sister to arrive and save him.
I've seen cute , naive little children suffering from leukaemia and dying from it as there were no donors.
I've seen young little children who matured too early to be able to do their dialysis due to kidney failure.
I've seen healthy boy who suddenly became bed ridden and retarded due to brain infection.
I've seen child with big head due to frequent bleeding in the brain resulting from a failure of the clotting mechanism.
I've seen mother taking care of a child who had retarded growth with uncontrollable seizures. You won't be able to tolerate the sight of a boy fitting in front of you even for 2 seconds but the other has been enduring for the past 10 years!

And lots more......... that's y when I was pregnant, I prayed every night for a healthy baby, doesn't matter sex, pretty or not but as long as they are healthy, coz I've seen to many of those.
And I know, having a healthy baby is not something to take for granted with.

I am glad that my words can be of some comfort to you.
I know it's hard, like I said in my SMS, but it's beyond imagination how much courage and love you had to take you through this difficult part of your life.

It's always good to have religion, of course, your strong will is more important than anything else. And, family support is also crucial.
I can be very sure that you have a very supportive husband and a bright little girl to stand by your side.
It's all history, let go and like you say, life goes on and there's always a better tomorrow if we believe :)


这一段充满泪水的日子，我很明白但却无法想像你是用了多少的爱的毅力熬了过来。
你是一个很伟大及坚强的妈妈。
想告诉你一句老套但真挚的话：雨后总有彩虹，明天一定会更好！祝福你及家人

婉玲

黎氏家族排法不可理喻！

家翁家婆自海南岛探亲返槟，告诉我们夫妻一个消息：黎圣田将归放在孟和我的孩子名下！

我感到震惊不已，马上一口拒绝。
我说，小婶J 千辛万苦生下小田，她是亲娘咧！怎么可以转来当我的孩子，我自是担当不起呀。

妈说，根据祖家黎明叔叔的说法，中国家族的排法都是这样的，每一代的第一个男孩，都自动被列为长房的孩子。就像孟是爸和大妈的孩子、焜是二叔夫妇的孩子，不论孟与焜是谁生的。

根据他们的排法，在我们这一代，孟是长房，下一代的男孩，不管是谁生的，只要是第一个，就必须归是孟的孩子，更何况圣田是通过我处“借胎法”得到的，更理所当然是归属孟的孩子。


孟和我异口同声说，不，孟有圣方圣德两个儿子了。
我更不想小婶J 对我产生任何的误会，以为我失掉两个儿子之后，想要霸占她的儿子。

我告诉家婆M，千万叫她别向小婶J 开口，否则家变都有份！
她说，等迟些她和小婶的关系缓和之后，再向小婶讲。
我赶快联络小姑L，请她帮忙禁止家婆M 向小婶J 开口。她说，家婆已早先一步告诉她说我很反对了。

将心比心，孩子是小婶辛辛苦苦怀胎十月生出来的，这一生都是小婶的。长辈们何必多此一举呢？伤了我和小婶的妯娌情更不好。

黎明叔叔的黎氏家族排法，太莫明其妙，不可理喻！

“karmic” energy will explain all this

Hi Ewe Chin

I am so sorry to hear and know about this, and I know it is not easy to get through this…
there is such thing called “karmic” energy and Buddhist will explain all this…

Good to see your smiling face again. Do take care


Rgds
Shueh Li