圣田第一次返槟，和我们的车在南北大道一路并行。
由於他一离开家一小时即发烧，多天来没有好转，又泄又吐，家婆马上联想，要带他去往见师父。
临走前一晚，家婆更要小叔夫妻带着圣田到我家来祭拜圣方，我们夫妻无所谓，可是就引发了小婶J的好奇。
她接连拨打我的电话、又发了多则短讯，追问我为何家婆M 说圣田必须祭拜圣方。
我很为难，如果我告诉她因为圣田是圣方的弟弟圣德的投胎之身，她会怎样想呢？她会承受这个事实吗？她千辛万苦才诞下圣田，肯定无法接受。
孟说，时候到了，不该再隐藏这些东西。应该让全家人知道整件事的来龙去脉。
是事实，一家人之间不应隐瞒。
他也劝我别想太多，尤其是太袒护别人，太顾及别人的感受，结果自己这么辛苦，受尽委曲还再继续帮人。
小婶J 的SMS不断，我不敢回应，急忙向儿科专科医生好友婉玲求救！
[15:51] eugenice: help!
[15:51] eugenice: need your prof help as i never study abt the psycho of parents
[16:03] Wan Lin Tan: why why? what happened? I am not a psychologist too
[16:05] eugenice: that little Tian came back
[16:07] eugenice: last weekend, the little boy came to Pg for his 1st time, together with me from KL
[16:07] eugenice: but he fever aft 1hr of driving till today, vomit & lao sai
[16:08] eugenice: medicine taken, still same
[16:08] eugenice: then my kay po MIL suddenly came out with asking the little boy to my hse to pray to his "eldest bro" Shen Fang
[16:09] eugenice: so my SIL now very curious, sms & called me for times, asking me why
[16:09] eugenice: how shall i say? shall i tell her the "truth" of how his son was actually 投胎 from my son
[16:10] eugenice: my hb said tell them whole thing, but i hesitate
[16:11] eugenice: will my sis IL accept this? she suffered so much to deliver this boy, and she spend all her effort to look & love this Sheng Tian
[16:11] Wan Lin Tan: to save you from all the trouble, i think you should tell her
[16:11] eugenice: what? u also say like this?
[16:11] Wan Lin Tan: ya..... not your fault
[16:11] Wan Lin Tan: hm... if you ask me, i'll ask her to go and ask MIL
[16:11] eugenice: but i believe she sure will angry with me, not going to let us near to his son anymore
[16:12] Wan Lin Tan: why should she be angry with you?
[16:12] Wan Lin Tan: not your fault
[16:12] Wan Lin Tan: you did not make all this happen
[16:12] Wan Lin Tan: it started from your MIL
[16:14] eugenice: u know, i m very hard
[16:15] eugenice: i put the whole incident happened to 2 half, 1 half is abt how the MIL curse made me lost 2 sons, 2nd half is how Shen De "reincarnated" to become Shen Tian
[16:16] eugenice: i keep 1st half secret away from my MIL, only told her 2nd half
[16:16] eugenice: while i told my SIL 1st half only
[16:18] Wan Lin Tan: Do you think Shen Fang wants this to be revealed to your SIL (Tian's mum?)
[16:24] eugenice: i hv no idea
[16:24] eugenice: Shen Fang never "tell" me
[16:25] eugenice: what do u think?
[16:25] eugenice: i asked MIL, she did not reveal the whole thing, just asked them to pray
[16:25] eugenice: but sure SIL wants to know why marrr
[16:25] eugenice: if i were her, i also curious to know
[16:27] eugenice: but i don think Fang will do anything to tian
[16:44] Wan Lin Tan: hm..... put yourself in her position
[16:44] Wan Lin Tan: if you are asked to pray
[16:44] Wan Lin Tan: would you want to know why
[16:45] Wan Lin Tan: the more ppl try to 'hide' from you, the more curious you get
[16:45] eugenice: yes
[16:45] Wan Lin Tan: and you tend to think the 'bad' way
[16:45] Wan Lin Tan: right?
[16:45] eugenice: so, how?
[16:45] Wan Lin Tan: hm... just let her be prepared
[16:45] eugenice: how to be prepared?
[16:45] Wan Lin Tan: tell her that concerns some 'previous lives'
[16:45] Wan Lin Tan: and if she believes and is ready to accept the truth
[16:46] Wan Lin Tan: then tell her
[16:46] eugenice: yes, this one i told her already. i told her abt my previous life
[16:46] Wan Lin Tan: collect the facts
[16:46] Wan Lin Tan: before you go into the fact that her son is reincarnated from yours
[16:46] eugenice: and another true story of 投胎在自家 in the family
[16:46] Wan Lin Tan: tell her how she conceived and when
[16:46] Wan Lin Tan: the dates
[16:47] Wan Lin Tan: she's been trying to have a baby but not success
[16:47] Wan Lin Tan: why till you lost yours then only she got one
[16:47] Wan Lin Tan: and a boy
[16:47] Wan Lin Tan: and the timing is so perfect
[16:47] eugenice: 出於保护自己的心态，我想她会反弹
[16:47] Wan Lin Tan: too many coincidences
[16:48] Wan Lin Tan: but if you don't tell, sure she'll ask
[16:48] Wan Lin Tan: keep asking
[16:48] Wan Lin Tan: till she gets an answer
[16:48] Wan Lin Tan: unless you plan to hide from her
[16:48] Wan Lin Tan: and pray that she never knows
[16:48] eugenice: but sifu said no need to tell
[16:48] Wan Lin Tan: hm....
[16:48] eugenice: worried how's her reaction
[16:49] Wan Lin Tan: make sure your MIL doesn't tell too
[16:49] Wan Lin Tan: if you don't want to tell
[16:49] Wan Lin Tan: you could just 'make up ' something
[16:49] Wan Lin Tan: like how Shen Fang is a 'dear' to the family and how he stopped the sister's (Mei) sufferings
[16:49] Wan Lin Tan: this sure your SIL knows
[16:50] Wan Lin Tan: and hopefully Shen Fang can now help the cousin brother too
[16:50] Wan Lin Tan: if you do not want to tell her the whole story, then at least tell her something that she can believe
[16:50] Wan Lin Tan: believe and convinced that why Tian must pray to Fang
[16:53] eugenice: yes, she knows all abt Mei sufferings & Fang's help
[16:53] eugenice: but both hb & wife cannot relate Fang to their son Tian
[16:53] eugenice: "why asking Tian to pray to Fang?'
[17:08] Wan Lin Tan: tell her, Fang, being a brother to Tian, will protect Tian, just like how Fang protect Mei, if they believe, they pray, if they don't , leave it. And i think they should not ask more
[17:09] eugenice: they are 新新人类 , always ask till i cannot answer
[17:10] eugenice: last yr when she got to know i pregnant, she also asked me directly: why, how? accident? u planned?
[17:10] eugenice: she so curious cos she tried hard but no news
[17:11] eugenice: aiyo...suddenly i laugh
[17:12] eugenice: u as a close friend of mine, never meet anyone of my family members, but u know everything the most detailed
[17:12] eugenice: hope u don get bored when i share with u
[17:21] Wan Lin Tan: oh please... I am honoured that you trust me and you share with me
[17:21] Wan Lin Tan: don't mention the word 'bored'
[17:22] Wan Lin Tan: it's a pity that i can't help much
[17:23] eugenice: oh no..u helped me a lot
[17:42] Wan Lin Tan: i wish i can.....
[17:42] Wan Lin Tan: i am good as a listener only
[17:44] eugenice: oh..u did comfort me a lot
我想，能够拖得一时，就拖吧！
